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Sunday, May 04, 2008

Baby Gear: Discard Now or Later?

When I first had my older son (OS), I could not imagine giving away one single item of his. What if I regretted it? What if I needed it later? When I worked at our moms group yard sale, it almost pained me to see the high chairs, strollers, and Pack N Plays donated. How could people part with these items? I'm sure those of you with older kids are laughing about that one.

The Big Giraffe and I have decided to move! Yes, we're really excited about it. There's a catch though. After meeting with our financial planner, we're probably going to wait another year to year and a half. Probably. We're meeting with a realtor tomorrow evening to find out where the market challenges have dropped our home value and to get an early idea of what work we need to do before putting our house on the market. The fact of the matter is a year will go by pretty quickly.

Our annual moms yard sale is also later this month. I went into our basement a few nights ago to try to see it through a realtor's eyes and, after fleeing in horror, I came to a rather shocking realization: I'm no longer attached to baby items. In fact, the yard sale can't come quickly enough. I am excited to casually donate my high chair, baby toys, etc. I decided to take a stab at selling some of them and have been amazed by the response. Anything that doesn't sell is going to the yard sale.

It doesn't take a background in rocket science for me to realize that I had been hanging onto these items because I wasn't ready to say that I was done having babies. Sometime between then and my current look at the basement, it became alright to let them go. Yes, I know getting rid of things is a sure fire way to get pregnant again. I already checked my birth control prescription. Phew!

As a prospective buyer was checking out the high chair today, I noticed that the white plastic had started to yellow in spots. This high chair is only just about 5 years old, and I've kept it very clean. In fact, it was less used than most of my baby gear, because my younger son (YS) went straight to a booster chair, so he never used the high chair. I was a little surprised by how quickly it had begun to age. Then I had another realization. If I didn't get rid of it now, it would be a guaranteed fight with my future daughters-in-law.

I imagine that the conversation would go something like this:

Alex Elliot (AE): I've saved this high chair for all these years for my grandchildren.
Future Daughter-in-law (FDIL): It looks like it's aged a little. Why is it yellow? It was white in the pictures with my husband
AE: (defensive) It's perfectly fine (and to me it would be!).
FDIL: What year was that plastic made? I remember reading in a history book that there were many issues with plastic when we were born.
AE: That was BPAs, and I don't remember any high chair trays being recalled.
FDIL: All the same, though our plastic regulations are much better now. It's been 30 years after all. I just don't want my baby actually eating off of old, degrading plastic. Seriously a high chair tray is the baby's plate. That's just gross not to mention dangerous.* Maybe we can take and keep a picture of it.
AE: Fine. (rushing out of the room to call the Big Giraffe). But I saved it all these years for you!!!

Alright maybe I saved it all these years for me. That would be hard to admit though.

*If this is YS's wife, she can point out that he never even used the high chair in which case I will pretend I don't hear her.

Wow! I'm exhausted from this fight. May all my fights with my FDILs be this easy to avoid! Off to tell the Big Giraffe how I'm the best FMIL ever! Alright, at least let me have this moment!
A. Elliot's Lesson Learned: Deal with baggage and other gear before it poisons future relationships.

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posted by Alex Elliot @ 6:11 PM   14 comments
14 Comments:
  • At 5/04/2008 7:58 PM, Blogger Heather said…

    Ah, good points all.

    After this baby, I'll be doing some selling too. This is the last one that's coming from my body.

    Hope you sell lots!

     
  • At 5/04/2008 8:02 PM, Blogger Mayberry said…

    I'm still a-clingin' over here.

    Funny thing: My parents used an antique wooden high chair with all of us kids ... and now both my kids have used it on visits to their house!

     
  • At 5/04/2008 8:47 PM, Blogger SUEB0B said…

    You know, as soon as you get rid of the baby stuff, you get pregnant again. Or at least that's what my mom says, and she had 6 kids.

     
  • At 5/05/2008 8:02 AM, Blogger Ashley Winters said…

    If you did want to hold onto your 'old' stuff, you would need to buy a much bigger house to store it all. I'm with you, sell it and make some extra cash.

     
  • At 5/05/2008 8:05 AM, Anonymous CableGirl said…

    See and I'm not willing to get rid of anything yet, but that's because I know I do want another kid. However, I've lent out everything I could to a friend who has a newborn so that it's not clogging up my closet space in the meantime. lol. How's that for planning. :)


    LOVE the hypothetical conversation between you and FDIL. 8snicker*

     
  • At 5/05/2008 8:44 AM, Blogger Count Mockula said…

    Your imagined fight with FDIL cracked me up.

     
  • At 5/05/2008 10:43 AM, Anonymous Chantelle said…

    Too funny.
    I already know how you feel. We are moving in June/July and although we want another kid, it doesn't make sense to move everything from Europe to the US. But how am I going to get rif od his baby stroller? That thing was basically an extension of myself for over a year!

     
  • At 5/05/2008 11:40 AM, Blogger Whirlwind said…

    Hah! That's too funny!

    I too recently started getting rid of the baby stuff. In fact, I gave away the pack and play (and blankets to it as well) just yesterday. I have a highchair to get rid of as well. Of course, it's missing the straps (we never used them) and the cover - after three kids, it didn't last. My problem was getting rid of the clothes. I've saved some.

    A move is exciting. We've been looking but not actively. We have 6 years, I figure before we need to move:P

     
  • At 5/05/2008 11:58 AM, Blogger Kami said…

    As a mother to two sons, I so relate to the fight with the daughter in law! It's going to be interesting to say the least :-)

    We too have parted with all the baby stuff. For us it was the baby stuff or us! We don't have room in our house for that kind of storage.

     
  • At 5/05/2008 12:27 PM, Blogger Sally HP said…

    Yes...purge, purge and then when you think you've done all you can, purge 10% more of your stuff (very scientific, eh?)

    Sounds like it's time for a Granny No-Mercy Day...I'll be having mine soon enough, and you can come laugh at my pain.

     
  • At 5/05/2008 5:43 PM, Blogger jodifur said…

    I've already gotten rid of or donated most of Michael's baby stuff. My house is too small to keep it all.

    We are also planning to move. We meet with our financial planner in a few weeks.

     
  • At 5/05/2008 7:07 PM, Blogger painted maypole said…

    haha. that's a great reason to get rid of stuff!

     
  • At 5/06/2008 4:51 PM, Blogger skiplovey said…

    Good for you!

    We plan to have another so I'm saving the good stuff but I am definitely parting with the stuff that was just ok. The oversized bassinet that was practically the size of a crib. It's outta here.

     
  • At 5/07/2008 3:21 PM, Blogger Suzanne said…

    Heh heh. Love the fight with your FDIL. Hilarious.

     
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