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Wednesday, April 16, 2008

When Your Child is the Instigator

I remember when my older son (OS) was just a tiny baby. When I looked at him, I imagined that he would always be gurgling and sweet. Alright I knew that he wouldn't remain like that forever but to be honest whenever I saw kids melting down I did secretly believe that OS wouldn't ever do such a thing. Come on, you haven't ever wondered if it was the parent? Be honest.

Over time, I have come to accept, begrudgingly, OS's temper tantrums. Today however I had a big realization: OS is an instigator. There I said it. It's true though.

Sally HP and I were getting ready to drive back from the Magic Wings aka the Butterfly Museum. She had bought butterfly lollipops for the kids. She even commented on how great the sticks were because they were plastic and thus wouldn't dissolve and get all gross like regular lollipop sticks do. I was impressed with her thoughtfulness. I was also impressed with the size of the sticks. I worried that OS would use it to poke at his brother or Sally's son. Fortunately the kids were all excited about the candy and quietly ate it.

Or so I thought. Then we heard a noise...kind of a scratching sound. I was baffled about what it could be. Then Sally asked OS to stop scratching the ceiling of her car with his lollipop. That's right, OS quickly figured out that the nice long lollipop pole stick could reach the ceiling. Oh, and he didn't finish eating the candy first. Of course, the other two boys wanted in on the game and before we knew it all three of them were scratching the ceiling with their wet sticky lollipops. I believe Sally indicated that this is what she should have expected from giving kids lollipops attached to the end of fishing poles. I can't say for sure because I was laughing so hard.

Of course OS stopped doing the scratching while YS continued. In fact even after YS finished his candy, in between ceiling scratches (hope Sally's car ceiling is cleaner than mine), he still was waving the stick around oblivious to the fact that the game had been over for a while.

I'm sure that OS has been an instigator before today. In fact, I would bet it's even happened more than once, particularly with his younger brother. I just wasn't as aware of his new status as that kid. Since as the younger sibling, YS always follows the trends after his brother is done finished, it appears like they are his idea

Sally HP's Lesson Learned: Do not give children lollipops with long sticks when enclosed places.

A. Elliot's Lesson Learned: At some point your sweet baby will become that kid.

To read about our trip to Magic Wings, (gotta love that name) click here.

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posted by Alex Elliot @ 7:11 AM   5 comments
5 Comments:
  • At 4/16/2008 7:14 AM, Blogger Whirlwind said…

    We love Magic Wings. Hum, I should have thought about going there this week. Oh well.

     
  • At 4/16/2008 7:38 AM, Blogger Sally HP said…

    Dude, he's not 'that kid' just 'a kid'...believe me, H will be on his heels in no time!

     
  • At 4/16/2008 8:37 AM, Blogger Heather said…

    Yeah, it stinks when you realize that your kid is the bad influence in the bunch. Although when parents of kids younger than mine give me those looks I usually just think, "yeah, your kid will do it too. Just wait."

     
  • At 4/16/2008 11:50 AM, OpenID cablegirl said…

    Have to agree with Sally HP here. He's not "that kid" he's just a kid.

    Silver lining? He's smart enough to figure this stuff out for himself. He's a born leader not a follower.

    Does that help at all? ;)

     
  • At 4/16/2008 5:13 PM, Blogger Jen of A2eatwrite said…

    I think all big bros are the instigators - isn't that their job?

     
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