I had a similar experience as you did with breastfeeding. And we are not having another child, but I often wonder if we did if I would try to nurse.

 

You HAVEN'T thought about Hostess Snoballs IN YEARS? What the heck have you been thinking about? :)

Just read your last few entries...love them all!

Hallie :)

 

Wanting to nurse and finding that you are unable to nurse your child is a very emotional thing. I felt like a failure to my baby when we were unsuccessful with breastfeeding. In truth, it still kind of hurts that I missed that with my daughter.

I was luckier with #2 and my son nursed like a champ, which was great, but also highlighted what I missed with my daughter.

I hope #3 nurses as well as #2 did. If not, I guess we'll all get by anyway. You just do what you have to do, right?

 

Sometime soon, I am going to figure out how this all works for myself. I really appreciate reading your perspective.

 

This is an enlightening post,Alex. I's comforting to see a perspective of someone who has a little more distance from the period.

Thank you.

 

This causes so many of us guilt and it's sad but I have to say that I experienced some of it with my first when I was having a lot of trouble breastfeeding. I just wouldn't quit because I knew I would feel guilty....so it breaks my heart that you didn't have a choice and yet you still felt that guilt. I can understand a bit of what it must feel like. But I think your decision to avoid the whole battle IF you had a third is an excellent one. Why put yourself through that again?

I never had a drop of formula and I am pretty normal. Well okay so the jury is still out on that but you know what I mean.

Thanks again for sharing your perspective, I think it is so important for all moms.

:-)

 

I had a very similar breastfeeding experience as you did with my first daughter. My lactation consultant also told me flat out that "some women cannot breastfeed." The whole ordeal was terrible.

So, now that I'm 31 weeks pregnant with daughter #2, knowing that #2 is probably my last baby, I'm not putting myself through that again. Like you said, my job is to make sure she's fed and happy. I also need to make sure I'm happy and I don't want to miss out on so much the first month like I did last time. Thanks for this post.

 

I think it's just such an individual thing and a decision that each woman has to make for herself, and what's best for her and her baby. I think it's terrible when some breast feeding moms make formula feeding moms feel like they've let their children down in some way. It isn't right for everyone, that's all. I was really fortunate, I had plenty of milk and it wasn't difficult for me or painful in any way. My best friend had HUGE difficulties and had to bite on a cloth diaper every time she nursed because it hurt so much, and finally went to the bottle. You just never know until you're in that position. Great post!

Lizzy

 

Excellent post, as usual. I hope that other new moms see this and feel like they are not alone. The guilt is not worth it. Breast is best unless it is causing your baby to starve to death. Formula is way preferable to starvation in my opinion. No need for anyone to feel guilty about that! :)

 

Why do we feel so alone in the beginning? What a great piece.

Sorry to be gone so long. It's been one of those months...

 

Thanks! I feel much better having read your blog. I was made to feel very bad by the 'nipple nazis'; I could not breastfeed for a variety of reasons--apparently none too convincing for many people. The guilt is still there after 2 months.