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Tuesday, February 05, 2008

Pride Goes Before A Fall

When my older son (OS) was a baby I loved taking him to the grocery store. I would put him in his front carrier and the two of us would walk into the store which was always filled with bright lights, bright colors and most importantly mirrors in the produce section. When he outgrew the carrier, he sat in the shopping cart. Being a first time parent, I even had the bright idea to let OS sit in one of those grocery carts that's shaped like a butterfly. Before we even got down one aisle, I managed to pull just about every muscle in my back trying to maneuver the cart. I swear it had square wheels and was made of some special industrial steel designed to look like plastic. We switched back to a regular cart. Despite that incident, we always had a wonderful time and sometimes when he was fussy I would take him to the grocery store just to calm him down. At those times, we didn't even buy anything.

I could never understand why parents complained about taking their kids to the grocery store. (Pause for laughter particularly as it was grocery store post that made the eBay mom famous.) I am embarrassed to admit this, but I thought perhaps it was something about those particular kids or parents. How judgmental is that! Then OS turned one day and tried to stand in the grocery cart. And the next day, and the next day, and the next. The happy days were over. I began shopping at night when the Big Giraffe was home, which worked out well since it predated my Y membership and exercise efforts. I enjoyed the "me time".

When my younger son (YS) was a newborn, I had the brilliant idea to take both kids to the grocery store. I actually thought, another pause for laughter, that it would be a lot of fun. Seriously I have no idea what I was thinking. It turned out to be a terrifying time for me. OS accidentally knocked over a canned tomato display. I had the cart right next to me when I leaned over to pick up the cans. When I stood up, I saw a little old lady walking back to me with my cart with YS in it. I didn't even know she had taken him. I was so upset I ended up leaving.

Since then, I have tried using reverse psychology to make grocery store trips the rare and special treat. I usually go at night by myself. When I do take the boys, I go to the more expensive grocery store, because it has one of those red car carts. Both boys love it. OS stays in the car, and YS enjoys riding in the front seat in the cart without OS bothering him. Even though I usually end up with a sore back, it's worth it because it makes the trip a good outing for everyone. A few weeks ago I was having a conversation with some other moms about this. They were surprised that OS stayed in the cart. They hate the car carts because their kids run in and out of them. This leaves them stuck pushing a gigantic, boat-like cart in a desperate chase to catch their children. I felt that same sense of pride that I enjoyed when baby OS and I enjoyed the grocery store together. I should have known that pride goes before a fall.

Yesterday I took both kids to the store. OS begged to come with me, so I waited until after he was done with preschool. We picked out the red car cart. OS seated himself inside the car part while YS sat in the regular child seat section of the cart. Everyone was happy until OS decided that he no longer wanted to be in the cart. Then YS didn't want to be in the cart. Guess who was left to push the empty cat? That's right OS! No, I'm kidding. However my memory of YS's almost accidental kidnapping kept me distracted. I was so focused trying to keep an extra vigilant eye on my kids, that I left the grocery store covered in a clammy sweat. Even though I had brought a grocery list, I left without picking up several of my items. I totally see why that eBay mom's post is so popular.

A. Elliot's Lesson Learned: The price of parenting is eternal vigilence.

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posted by Alex Elliot @ 7:53 PM   14 comments
14 Comments:
  • At 2/05/2008 10:49 PM, Blogger Tracey said…

    Hmmm. I'm gonna have to google eBay Mom post now, cuz I have no clue what you're talking about.

    The more kids I've had, the less control I have in the store. They are "ok" now. Sometimes. Others, not so much... Ok, other times, they're complete terrors. But just one kid now? Piece a cake.

     
  • At 2/05/2008 11:02 PM, Blogger Alex Elliot said…

    I just put the link in to her blog Because I Said So. She's the one who wrote the hilarious post on ebay auctioning off a pack of Pokeman cards. It got tons and tons of hits and she made TV and radio appearances and was offered book deals etc.

     
  • At 2/05/2008 11:05 PM, Blogger Suzanne said…

    Bringing kids anywhere in public sounds like a potential nightmare to me. I feel like all you moms and dads and guardians out there are amazing to handle these situations on a regular basis. (I am not being sarcastic.) I am barely organized enough to get in and out of the grocery story in less than 30 minutes and with all five items on my list.

     
  • At 2/06/2008 7:13 AM, OpenID cablegirl said…

    I LOVED that Pokemon card post. I think I cried laughing... until I realized that eventually I'd be crying shopping. lol

    MJ *so far* isn't too bad in the store. She wants to hold every item I put in the cart and usually wants to chew on them, but *so far* we can make it through the shopping with little anger or tears.

    I really shouldn't have said that. Murphy is so going to kick my ass.

     
  • At 2/06/2008 8:01 AM, Blogger Whirlwind said…

    I hate taking all three with me but mainly because they whine so much.

    My oldest one was four before she found out about the free cookies, the youngest, two. And they only get them if they are good. It's a super incentive!

    What worked for awhile, was giving them their own list of what we need. We printed out pictures and they had to help find them.

     
  • At 2/06/2008 9:13 AM, Blogger Heather said…

    Oh the grocery store is a nightmare. I can't tell you how many times K has pitched a fit. But I'm a glutton for punishment and continue to take him because I don't really have time after hubby comes home.

     
  • At 2/06/2008 9:54 AM, Blogger soccer mom in denial said…

    That is why we use the drop-off center in our grocery store. They go play video games and I can shop in peace.

     
  • At 2/06/2008 12:53 PM, Blogger BOSSY said…

    And supermarkets are supposed to be a convenience. Imagine two kids in the fields.

     
  • At 2/06/2008 1:20 PM, Blogger Jen of A2eatwrite said…

    Those drop off centers are a blessing when they're there... So glad those days are over for the moment!

     
  • At 2/06/2008 1:52 PM, Blogger Lizzy in the Burbs said…

    Hi!

    Hi, Alex!

    That "grocery store mom" is actually my SIL's neighbor, believe it or not! Her name is Dawn and she really is a very funny lady and has a great big family just like she says. She just got a book deal and she is going to be on Oprah when her book is released, next fall I think.

    Grocery shopping with kids isn't easy, that's for sure! When mine were little I would try and make them my "helpers" and ask them to get easy items (things stocked low on the shelves) for me. It kept them busy, albeit only momentarily. Best of luck to you! (wiping brow and so happy my boys are past that stage, phew!) :)

    Lizzy

     
  • At 2/06/2008 1:54 PM, Blogger Lizzy in the Burbs said…

    Um...I don't know how I did that, but I really only meant to say "Hi", not "Hi-Hi".

    Lizzy

     
  • At 2/06/2008 3:48 PM, Blogger Worker Mommy said…

    Shopping with the twins is a NIGHTMARE. I try to make sure its a very short trip or go when hubby is home.
    The worst trip I think was when they were about 18 months and I had J in the upper portion of the cart and B in the main portion. He wound up stomping on and crushing several items and then throwing stuff out of the cart and then throwing a fit.
    It was at that moment that I had to resit the urge not to put a for sale sticker on him and leave him there ;)

     
  • At 2/06/2008 4:16 PM, Blogger Chicky Chicky Baby said…

    I am not looking forward to this. Not one bit.

    But I also used to take Chicky to the supermarket just to soothe her. Now I have to dodge demands like "Can I have cheese?" "Can I have cheese NOW?" "Can I have more cheese? Now?"

     
  • At 2/07/2008 1:13 PM, Blogger Liza's Eyeview said…

    Totally! (I laughed so loud at tat Ebay mom auction post when I first read it)

    Yes, pride goes before a fall - that happened to me too :)

     
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