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Sunday, February 10, 2008

Library Rules

Just to clarify, this post is meant to be humorous. I think humor is an important part of parenting, and I really enjoy that part (and many other parts).

When my older son (OS) was born, I couldn't wait to begin experiencing life with him. I pictured the snuggling we would do, the walks that we would take, the songs that we would sing, and the trips to the library. Together we would curl up on a big comfy chair in the library and read our books in front of the fireplace while I sipped from a cup of hot chocolate. Alright maybe not that last part; obviously it needs to be cold hot chocolate. However, the reality has never come close to that picture. Between the fact that the librarians tend not to be very helpful, the lack of any available fireplace, and the prohibition on food or drink, even hot chocolate (can you believe it!), I don't spend much time there. Of course, I don't think I am their favorite customer either. Whenever I casually inquire as to whether any of the money that they are collecting to build some huge addition will go toward placing a book drop box in the parking lot, they quickly change the subject.

Still, it did bother me that I wasn't taking my boys to the library as often as I should. I loved the library as a child and I want my boys to feel comfortable there. I also hope they discover at an early age that they can find a book to answer their questions in addition to learning how to borrow someone else's property and be responsible for it.

So earlier this week when OS started talking about the Curious George book in which he visits the library, it reminded me that the Big Giraffe had led his own library excursion with the boys over the holidays, and I had not remembered a follow-up trip to return the borrowed books. I had a pretty good bad feeling that those books were overdue. Nice way for us to teach responsibility, right? Since they were on his card, I couldn't look them up on-line to see the due date.

After scrabbling around the house to find the books, the boys and I headed out to the library. I have long since given up on the fireplace and the hot chocolate, but my head was filled with cozy images of the three of us curled up with a book. I am confident that the boys' heads were filled with fun images of the one eyed goldfish at the library that they just love. (No,
I'm not making that part up I swear.)
Before entering the library, I had gone over a list of rules with my boys. Talk quietly, no hitting, no shoving and they needed to listen to me. (As opposed to the in-house rules...) OS pointed out that Daddy had already talked to him about talking quietly when they were there a few weeks ago. Great!

It turns out that the books were not overdue, since we had renewed them on-line at their original due date. We returned them anyway and went down to the dungeon children's room to select more books. A librarian helped OS find a book on how rainbows are made. The three of us (not the librarian) curled up and read the book. Wow, I had attained my goals of making the library a nice place of the boys, showing OS how he could find the answer to his questions, and enjoying some nice snuggle time together.

I must have pushed it too far...about ten minutes too far. Suddenly the boys started chasing each other around the library through the stacks. That's when I identified the problem with having little kids at the library: parents are also bound by the whisper requirement! In other words, no yelling. Not that I would ever do that anyway. My kids were running through the stacks, and I was trying to grab at them while whispering furiously. Of course, they paid no attention to me. Later OS informed me that "not running" was not one of the rules that I had laid out. I pointed out that it fell under "listening to me". Of course, he technically didn't violate that rule either, since he was running too fast to hear me whisper. That is why it will be a good ten years two weeks before I take my kids to the library again. After all, the books are due in two weeks.

A. Elliot's Lesson Learned: Most places that require children to be quiet also require parents to be quiet.

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posted by Alex Elliot @ 7:55 PM   12 comments
12 Comments:
  • At 2/10/2008 10:24 PM, Blogger Mayberry said…

    At our library the children's area is open to the floor above ... which is of course the adult area. I have yet to figure out how I am supposed to keep my kids' voices from carrying up there.

     
  • At 2/10/2008 10:30 PM, Blogger Midwest said…

    Yeah. It's really a crapshoot on whether my kids will behave or not at the library.

    Our library lets us keep books for about a month though.

     
  • At 2/10/2008 10:35 PM, Blogger Heather said…

    Oops. Posted under the wrong email before...that's supposed to be me instead of "midwest."

     
  • At 2/11/2008 1:14 AM, Blogger Lizzy in the Burbs said…

    I remember those days when my boys were little, fun but a little tense at moments! I think all librarians are a bit uptight, must be a job requirement! :) Don't worry, it will get better! (then you just have to tackle them wanting to check out 20 books, 10 DVD's, and 5 magazines all at once!)

    Lizzy

     
  • At 2/11/2008 9:47 AM, Blogger Count Mockula said…

    Have you ever seen the Doris Day movie "Please, don't eat the daisies"? My favorite part is when one of her kids eats like a dozen daisies and she asks him why and he says "You never told me not to!"

     
  • At 2/11/2008 11:03 AM, Blogger Whirlwind said…

    The library I used to take the girls to for storytime had a slide, kitchen set and full toy area. Try keeping kids quiet in a setting like that!

    Unfortunately, we don't visit the library as often as we should.

     
  • At 2/11/2008 11:46 AM, Blogger Amy said…

    My problem at the library is that my kid goes straight for the computer games and I can barely drag him off to find books!

     
  • At 2/11/2008 1:13 PM, Blogger skiplovey said…

    Ah I see the fireplace has resurfaced in the "visions of happiness" again. Always the fireplace huh?
    My memories of the library from childhood included my parents dropping my sister and I off in the kids room while my dad disappeared towards the magazines. I have no idea how ill behaved we were. At least you were there to keep them in check.

     
  • At 2/11/2008 3:03 PM, Blogger Jennifer, Le Binky Bitch said…

    I had the exact same fantasies about the library. Turns out, librarians are rude (well not ALL librarians) and it's just not fun to take kids to the library for any length of time.

     
  • At 2/11/2008 5:12 PM, Blogger Jen of A2eatwrite said…

    Our library seems to eschew books for just about every other bell and whistle that's out there - I find it very frustrating finding books at times.

     
  • At 2/13/2008 2:26 AM, Blogger Suzanne said…

    In defense of librarians, my mother-in-law is a children's librarian, and I think she's great. Also, I think it's sort of OK for kids to get a little nutty in the children's library, although I personally feel for you having to chase them around. It's an adventure, right?

     
  • At 2/15/2008 7:58 AM, Blogger ru said…

    oh, all the anti-librarianism is terribly distressing! i am a librarian, and my wife brought our son to storytime yesterday, then to the desk to see me. we were making the rounds, saying hi to everyone, when he inexplicably started screaming!

    so, i guess, it happens to us all!

    and really, even reading at home ends up being more of a shout-fest than a quiet snuggle anyway (see video posted at hedda dabbler!).

    it is my sincere hope that we will one day be able to shed this idea that the library is to be a place of silence!

     
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