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Monday, January 14, 2008

Getting the Boot(s)

Because both the Big Giraffe and I were late walkers, we weren't surprised when both of our boys showed absolutely no interest in walking when they were a year old. Sure they both did cruising, but they were as likely to let go of the coveted table or chair as the Big Giraffe and I would be to go sky diving. At least that's what their howls suggested.

Since my older son (OS) was my first, I did what many new parents do and worried about it extensively. I analyzed any of his movements until I was exhausted. Why wasn't he walking? All my relatives kept pointing out that I was a late walker and my brother, maternal cousin, and mother didn't walk until they were all two. Did I mention that the Big Giraffe was a late walker? Even the pediatrician kept on saying that it was genetic. I was completely neurotic (which my parents insist is not genetic). I was fixated on the fact that he was still a crawler. Surely it meant that there was something catastrophically wrong. At his 15 month appointment, the pediatrician suggested a referral to Early Intervention just in case there really was a problem because at the time there was a two month wait. OS would be 17 months by the time they could actually see him. Two things happened: 1) EI had a cancellation the next week and was able to see OS 2) OS started walking three days before he turned 17 months.

Not surprisingly my younger son (YS) was a late walker as well. Yes I was still surprised, but that surprise was because YS always wants to do everything that OS does. He even crawled earlier than OS did. I assumed he would want to imitate OS's walking early too. I think that YS just didn't see the point in crawling, since he was an incredibly quick crawler. More importantly, OS brings YS everything that he thinks YS wants. Really there was no incentive for YS to walk.

This time my mindset was different. I fretted about YS having to be in Early Intervention. It's a great program, and I am very grateful that we have such an outstanding service, but seriously it was like falling into a black hole because it took up a ton of time. I also could never schedule anything since because they are understaffed (and not surprisingly underpaid), many times they wouldn't know their schedules until the last minute. This time I was the one reminding the pediatrician that she said walking was genetic. I was the one saying that I really wasn't worried. Actually she wasn't either. She said to wait until the 18 month appointment and then we would talk. I was fine with that.

That said, the Big Giraffe did swing a giggling YS around to his version of "Paralyzer," which went something like:

"I'm not paralyzed, but I seem to be struck by you.
I want to make you walk because your crawling still.
And if your walking matches what your crawl can do,
You'll probably walk right past me on my way to you."


At his 18 month appointment, YS took several sets of half dozen sets around the waiting room and then promptly crawled. The pediatrician commented that if he could take six steps, then he was obviously capable of taking a lot more. It was a matter of will. Was he ever going to walk? Fortunately, the answer was yes! This past week, he has officially gone from crawler to walker to runner at the ripe old age of 18.5 months! As I watch him demonstrate increased range in his efforts to pull things from various counters and tables to put in his mouth, I ask myself why did I think this was a good idea?

Then today, we hit one little snafu. Since I didn't know when YS was going to walk or what size his feet would be when he walked, I never got him boots. Thus when the Big Giraffe carried OS into the house after finally winning their game of snow chase, YS woefully crawled over to the door and started waving his sneakers at the Big Giraffe in a desperate bid to get his own playtime in the snow.

I did a quick stop at Target this evening to see what I could find in winter footwear so he can play in the snow tomorrow. There really wasn't anything. Being the gender stereotype challengers that we are, I even checked out the girls shoe section. No boots, pink or not, were to be found. I'll have to continue my search tomorrow.

A. Elliot's Lesson Learned: If you are looking for sandals or other summer footwear, you should head right out to Target before the weather warms up and boots go back on sale.

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posted by Alex Elliot @ 10:03 PM   10 comments
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  • At 1/15/2008 6:51 AM, Blogger Kirsten said…

    Same situation with my older daughter and younger. My older daughter didn't walk until 3 days before 17 months. Actually her pediatrician described her legs as marshmallows at her 1 year check up. She wasn't even crawling by then.

    Younger daughter crawled 5 months before older daughter, and I was sure would walk before her first birthday. Not quite. She walked at just about 15 months.

    18 months was always our benchmark appointment too, but living in Peru and now in Japan we didn't and don't have Early Intervention as an option.

    How is your younger son's language development? Younger daughter is delayed, but I am waiting until 18 months to worry as well.

     
  • At 1/15/2008 7:10 AM, Blogger Whirlwind said…

    I hate when it "winter" actually arrives in January/February and you can't actually find snow gear. But hey, if you need a bathing suit, they are there!

    I was actually looking at some clearence coats the other day ($10!) to stock up for net year but they didn't have any I liked in their sizes.

     
  • At 1/15/2008 10:00 AM, Blogger Mayberry said…

    It drives me crazy when the stuff that's in season disappears! I had a really hard time finding snowpants for my daughter last month. Hope you find some boots soon.

     
  • At 1/15/2008 10:16 AM, Blogger skiplovey said…

    Congrats on your little walker! Yeah, why is it that the stuff you need for seasons is never there but the next season is there, and on sale? Good luck shopping.

     
  • At 1/15/2008 11:43 AM, Blogger Kami said…

    I think you are right... life changes when they start walking! But it is for the better... or well okay maybe not. In our house it meant trouble of the blue kind. Lots of bruises. Especially with my wild second son!

    Good luck with the boots!

     
  • At 1/15/2008 12:40 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    What size boots do you need for your YS?

    meri.stand@verizon.net

     
  • At 1/15/2008 3:00 PM, Blogger M said…

    I so know what you mean about the seasonal stuff. If you happen to have a Goodwill or some other second hand store around you, you might want to check it out. I got DS a great pair of rubber boots there today, and there were lots of winter boots to be had too.

     
  • At 1/15/2008 5:33 PM, Blogger Heather said…

    They all do things in their own sweet time don't they? At least that's what I keep telling myself. Congrats (I think) on your new walker!

     
  • At 1/15/2008 9:11 PM, Blogger Suzanne said…

    Good for YS! I am glad that he's doing his thing.

     
  • At 1/15/2008 10:27 PM, Blogger Alex Elliot said…

    I found a pair this morning! Kirsten, when OS was in Early Intervention I was told that they don't even begin to consider speech delays until at least 20 months, but more like 24 months. Even then, a lot of kids will start speaking a lot and catch up to other kids their age in a matter of a couple months. They told me that they roll their eyes when a pediatrician does a referral before 20 months. YS seems fine to me. He said a bunch of words at his last doctor's visit and she seemed pleased. It's so hard to tell too with kids because EI criteria is that they have to be able to understand what your child is saying whereas when you meet with the pediatrician or other parents it's how many words your child says that you can understand.
    Thanks for all your comments!

     
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