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Saturday, January 19, 2008

Duck Duck Goose Challenges

As I dropped off my older son (OS) at preschool yesterday, his teacher mentioned that OS doesn't like to participate in Duck Duck Goose. The teacher wanted to know if she could prompt OS to participate in the games they would be playing that day. I said "yes," while becoming anxious as to whether there was more to discuss. On the other hand, how much is there to say about a game of Duck Duck Goose; you either play it or you don't. Since she shared this with me while I was in the dropoff line, which you are not supposed to delay by having detailed conversations, and it was pouring rain, I knew it wasn't the time to fully explore the issue.

As I drove home, I reflected on my own personal Duck Duck Goose experiences. Alright "reflected" is a strong word. I had flashbacks to how much I hated that game. I got agitated even thinking about it. The only game I disliked more was kickball. Kickball was really awful! I managed to get hit in the face with the ball in second grade, and my glasses split right down the middle. I almost had an anxiety attack on the spot. It was like standing up and shouting to everyone that I was terrible at the game. I feared that no one would ever want to pick me to be on their team. Plus with the broken glasses, I couldn't see well, but no one else had trouble seeing me walking around with broken glasses with tape for the next few days. Was I so bad at these games because I missing an important skill or there was something wrong with me? I almost failed gym class that year as a result! Was that an early sign that I was doomed to live a life of misery and failure?

I certainly was not going to allow OS to suffer the same fate. I called the school to talk to the teacher. She seemed surprised by my concern. She had simply spoken to me because she wanted to know if she could prompt OS to play. Apparently a lot of parents don't want teachers to do that. I'm relieved to learn that OS's failure to play Duck Duck Goose has not ruined the rest of his life. Now that I think about it, despite being wretched at Duck Duck Goose and Kickball, I went on to be a high school and college athlete; just not in kickball! He may choose to do the same.

A. Elliot's Lesson Learned: There is no correlation between a child's skill at playing Duck Duck Goose and overall life success.

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posted by Alex Elliot @ 10:24 PM   10 comments
10 Comments:
  • At 1/20/2008 10:07 AM, Blogger Heather said…

    Wouldn't that be horrible if your whole life was ruined by a kids' game when you were 4?

     
  • At 1/20/2008 11:10 AM, OpenID cablegirl said…

    Well, to be honest, I applaud OS for not wanting to play. When I was a kid I always hated those sorts of games. Although I became a really athletic person, when I was younger, let's face it, I sucked. I was nearly always picked last and picked on. If I could have I would have abstained.

    Of course not playing Duck Duck Goose won't hurt him in the long run. Who knows, maybe it'll be better. :)

     
  • At 1/20/2008 11:12 AM, Blogger Kami said…

    Wow what a horrible experience with kick ball... we have a game called dodgeball that maybe is similiar... the point of the game was to actually hit the other team with the ball. Since tag has now been banned I am positive this one has too :-)

    And in regards to your question, I am 5'3" on a good day :-)

     
  • At 1/20/2008 11:45 AM, Blogger Jen of A2eatwrite said…

    I hated duck, duck, goose! It made my stomach turn in knots. And I would end up being "it" forever, because running was so not my thing. I was a very strong swimmer, but terrible at running.

     
  • At 1/20/2008 4:04 PM, Blogger Kami said…

    C'mon by, I've given you an award :-)

     
  • At 1/20/2008 7:58 PM, Blogger slouching mom said…

    I agree with kami. Dodgeball was really awful, too.

     
  • At 1/20/2008 10:39 PM, Blogger Count Mockula said…

    My P.E. teacher in either K or 1st grade actually had to have a talk with my parents about my lack of coordination... and I'm mostly fine now. A missed DDG or two is not going to hurt him.

     
  • At 1/20/2008 11:47 PM, Blogger Lizzy in the Burbs said…

    It's funny, reading your post made me think about the games I played as a kid, and come to think of it, I hated that game, too! That and "Red Rover, Red Rover", which was basically a popularity contest, no one wanted to be the last one called, that meant you were a nerd! I wouldn't force little OS to participate if he doesn't want to, some kids just aren't into that kind of game, or he may enjoy it later when he's a little older.

    BTW, loved your post about the dead bird book. Sometimes the most simple message is the most powerful one, huh? Sorry about your loss. Take care!

    Lizzy

     
  • At 1/21/2008 3:37 PM, Blogger Worker Mommy said…

    I love this post Alex. I swear isn't it funny the things we can get worked up about as it relates to our kids.

    My kid teacher said my daughter was a bit shy in some scenarios in school (which is not at all my experience w/her). Of course I stewed on that forever and immediately set up a play dates and stuff....Duh she's fine..It was just a new school year - she just needed some time.
    I laugh at myself now when I think about it.

     
  • At 1/21/2008 8:58 PM, Blogger Suzanne said…

    Playing Duck Duck Goose can ruin your life! I got my second concussion while playing the game in preschool. I was running to get away from my pursuer and turned around to see what the situation was, then ran smack into a table and knocked myself out. (Incidentally, my first concussion was also at preschool when I was involved in a big wheel accident.) I suspect that I am partially so, um, me, due to genetics and my youthful brain injuries. That said, I still liked Duck Duck Goose, but maybe that proves my point...

     
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