I have a confession to make. And it's a pretty big one so pull up a chair and listen up, I'll only say this once.
I like gold jewelry.
I know, I KNOW. Silver is in. More precisely, platinum is in. I specifically remember going engagement ring shopping with my now husband and a jeweler asked me what I liked and pulled out some rings. All platinum or white gold. And when I told him I liked gold he told me "I needed to upgrade my taste." I don't think it needs to be said that my ring was purchased from somewhere else.
I live in a very affluent area. A place where a women's status is measured by the ring on her finger. And I have a lovely engagement ring. It is a one of a kind that my husband actually designed himself with a jeweler. But it's gold. And sometimes when women look at me their eyes land on my ring and I can almost hear their thoughts. "She must have sacrificed platinum for size." Or "her husband didn't know that you only buy rings in platinum and she is too afraid to tell him."
I love my ring. And in fact all of my jewelry is gold, because that's what I like. Part of it is my skin tone, white gold looks odd on me. And part of it is just what I like. And I'm not ashamed to say it. I'm not "in."
This post is part of The Blog Exchange. Jodi is mom to an almost 3 year old, a part-time lawyer, and wife. She blogs at Jodifur about all these things and many more. Please visit her site, and you will see Alex’s post! And thanks to Alex for being such a lovely hostess.
I have a similar confession... I like white gold or platinum, but diamonds just aren't my thing. I like sapphires, so my husband got me a sapphire engagement ring. And I am SURE I get a lot of looks for that. But he got me what I liked, and I am happy to wear it.
Do women really look at your ring and judge it and you?
I like gold, and silver, and will mix the two. Gold was in style back when we got married, so my rings are all gold (engagement, wedding, and anniversary). I don't prefer diamonds, so my main stone in my engagement ring is a garnet. My husband also designed my ring, on the idea of the cladaugh. It's always been complimented.
You're right! Our posts are similar. How funny that we all feel the need to justify our tastes like that (no diamonds, gold this, etc...). Shows how much the diamond industry, and the wedding industry, has us all brainwashed into thinking we're all odd. I feel just as defensive about white gold instead of yellow or platinum.
I love engagement bands that aren't diamond, particularly antique rings used for engagement bands. I knew that this diamond was the only one I'd want, though. So I'm quite pleased.
I know plenty of people who like yellow gold and have yellow gold rings instead of white gold or platinum.
Around here yellow gold is more common than white actually. I prefer the silver but that's just me. But you already know that from my post. :P Who cares what other people think as long as you like it.
My husband is defensive sometimes about how "small" my diamond is. But it's perfect for me so who cares.
Ha! Upgrade your taste indeed. That's a salesman that needs to learn some manners if he wants to earn the commission! I love that you know what you love and you make no excuses about it. For the record, I wear a silver ring at the moment, but that's only because my gold rings are in need of maintenance and repair and I just haven't done that yet. And, also for the record, my gold engagement ring is a PEARL, not a diamond. I like what I like too. Great post, Jodi. SO fun that you and Alex got to be partners this month!
It's been fun having you over here today! I have an antique replica for an engagement ring. People tend to assume that it was a family heirloom and are surprised when it's not. I just like the look.
Eh, being "in" is overrated. Having things you actually like is way better. I'd punch any jeweler in the face if he/she had the nerve to tell me I need to upgrade my tastes. (They did try very hard to upsell us on a diamond, but I stayed strong and firm and walked away with a nice small one that looks normal on my small fingers and was not hard on the wallet.)
I am so with you this Jodi! My rings are gold and I didn't compromise size... HA! Most would scoff at the size but for me, that wasn't what it was about.
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My wedding rings are gold as well. It was before the whole platinum craze. But I like all precious metals. The design is what grabs me.