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Sunday, June 03, 2007

Good Judgment and Personal Training

I was very surprised to receive the following question from the Big Giraffe over email: "I am curious. If you happened to consider a guy very good looking, really liked him, and were discussing that guy and those perceptions of him in an email to a female friend, would you consider it good judgment to forward that email to me?"

What on earth could have caused him to ask that question?

After being inspired by two of my friends' successes with meeting with a personal trainer, I decided to sign up for the 5 session package that was on sale at the Y in honor of Mothers and Fathers Days. I thought it would be great to learn some new approaches to fitness. I decided to go with my friend Kate's personal trainer because he sounded like a good fit for me. I was told that a lot of his exercises involve using your own body weight. I exchanged emails with "John" and arranged to meet him on Friday evening. I had no idea what he looked like but my friend had told me he was very good looking. (That was not a factor in me choosing him.)

Friday came, and I met John. He was indeed very good looking. I then explained to him how I wanted to get rid of my "upper gut". He wrote a fantastic workout for me. I felt great when I left and good yesterday and today. I even repeated the workout today. Within the last couple of days, I had emailed Kate about something else. In that email I mentioned that I had met with John, that he was good looking, and that I liked working with him. Her reply was not relevant to the subject of personal training, but it did include some comments that I thought would be of interest to the Big Giraffe. I therefore forwarded her reply email to him, forgetting that the email history was included. Hence, his reply. So what is my answer to his question? I do not think it was poor judgment to have forwarded that email. Our marriage is secure enough for the Big Giraffe to be able to handle me finding someone else physically attractive. No Big Giraffe, it doesn't work the other way!

A. Elliot's Lesson Learned: If your marriage is secure, your spouse should be able to handle being told that you consider another human being physically attractive.

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posted by Alex Elliot @ 7:35 PM   4 comments
4 Comments:
  • At 6/04/2007 9:21 AM, Blogger Suzanne said…

    In fact, I think it shows that you don't need to hide anything from each other. But it cracks me up anyway. I sometimes make little comments about attractive men in front of Husband, too.

     
  • At 6/04/2007 11:14 AM, Blogger Jenn in Holland said…

    Haha! What a great email to get from your husband, and what a hilarious response. Your lesson learned is fabulous.
    He has to know you feel you've nothing to hide, since you didn't edit the email in the least!
    Love it.

     
  • At 6/04/2007 7:09 PM, Blogger soccer mom in denial said…

    Oh but what is better is when said attractive men make comments about MOI and send secure husband into protracted periods of attentiveness.

    Good luck with the workouts! I'm glad this trainer is giving you new excersizes.

     
  • At 6/04/2007 10:34 PM, Anonymous Big Giraffe said…

    Sorry, I would have commented earlier, but I got home two hours late because I had a planned meeting with a female colleague that ran late followed by an unplanned meeting with another female colleague. I guarantee that my meetings were at least as innocent as the personal training sessions. While I respect both of the women I met with a great deal, I consider neither of them a "good fit for [me]," and neither of the meetings involved any exercises "using [my] own body weight."

    As secure as I like to consider myself, (assuming that you weren't using the term "upper gut" as an affectionate nickname for me when you told John you wanted to get rid of your "upper gut") I am glad that you did not meet John before we got married. Oh wait, he was still in high school. I guess I was safe. :-)

    Jenn and Suzanne, I absolutely agree that I have nothing to hide. I would agree with the rest of your comments if Alex had intentionally shared the email with me. To the extent that she "forwarded [Kate's] reply email to [me], forgetting that the email history was included," I think you may be giving her a little bit to much credit.

    Now, which part of your lesson doesn't work the other way, Alex?

    -The Big Giraffe

     
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