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Wednesday, January 10, 2007

Pants in Public?

First of all, a gigantic thank you to Linus of Just Thinking who nominated my post on Things I Never Thought I would Say post for the December ROFL awards. I am truly honored. I'm going to put up my "button" after I'm done with this post.

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I just came back from a very interesting meeting on talking to your kids on sex. It was lead by someone from Planned Parenthood. I have to admit that my husband and I had already talked about a lot of the issues that were discussed and so the information for the most part wasn't new. She talked about discussing issues as they come up instead of saving them up for a "big talk". She also suggested that if something was really important to you, you may need to bring it up and not wait for it come up on its own because it might not.

There's no right or wrong way to have a conversation. A good conversation encourages both parents and children to share their opinions and to explain why they have them. Anyhow, her point was that sexuality isn't just about having sex, it's about who we are as men and women. One of the things she got me thinking about was how I feel about nudity. My husband and I are pretty open and our older son (OS) who's 3 is around us a lot when we're getting dressed, using the bathroom, etc. He's good about respecting our privacy when we ask for it, but we don't tend to ask for it a ton because he's only 3. The speaker tonight suggested an excercise where you draw a line on a piece of paper. On the left side you write "always", on the middle you write "sometimes", and on the left you write "never". Then you and your partner discuss how you feel about nudity (or any other critical issue). Is it something that's always allowed? Something that is never allowed? Is it only allowed in your house? Is it okay to not wear a shirt if you're outside? This is a tricky issue for us because OS doesn't like to wear clothes. While he's gotten better about it as he's gotten older, just yesterday when we were at Friendly's he spilled ketchup on his pants and genuinely could not understand why he couldn't take off his pants in the restaurant. Without really sitting down and thinking about it, I already put a restriction on his nudity. In this case I think it was obviously a very good thing, but I'm looking foward to sitting down with my husband and starting to talk about what's appropriate and at what age.

A. Elliot's Lesson Learned: It's never too early to start thinking about how you're going to handle the trickier parenting issues.

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posted by Alex Elliot @ 12:05 AM   3 comments
3 Comments:

  • At 1/10/2007 7:47 AM, Blogger super des said…

    Are you talking to your kids about sex already? I don't think they'll get it, especially YS.

    in other news, Suzanne is telling the world that it's your bday, so happy bday!!!!

     

  • At 1/10/2007 6:21 PM, Blogger Happy and Blue 2 said…

    Happy Birthday..
    Personally I think that people should be covered up completely at all times. But I may be a tad wrong in my views, ha,ha..

     
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